I wouldn't have believed any of that, either, if I'd heard it 5 years ago, K1. But *four* years ago I happened to meet my soulmate, completely by chance, in a Robotech chatroom. ^_^; It was one of those instant connections and we both knew within a week that we were (to be cheezy) "meant to be". Heh, nevermind that I lived in Florida and he was in Arizona (*completely* on the other side of the country!)... it hasn't been easy, but nothing worth working for ever is. We've made it work, and it made a believer out of me. ^_^ Scary thing is, the saying is true: as soon as you stop looking for love, it finds you.

Heh... I'll just keep waiting to dial that one wrong number...

Larry

wow that is so romantic Melichan! you said you're both in different states in the US, so have you both seen each other yet?

Larry, LOL thats a good one! very on the mark! im waiting to make that special wrong number phone call too!

In all seriousness, i really dont know what approach to tak, should i be more aggressive and go actively looking or should i just let love come when it comes. this is a real problem for me!

Heh... I once told a friend to ask out this girl he was in love with. "Just ask her, you wimp," I said, The worst she can do is say no...."

"Not really," he said, "she could point and laugh." He had some pretty serious issues.

I ended up resorting to the old "get them locked in a room together at a party" routine. Heh... they're married to each other now.

Larry

woaw! way ta go! were you their best man at the wedding?
im not sure which case that falls into though.

Problem is good girls are hard to find!

Let love come to you as they say 'love is blind' so how do you expect to find something that can't even see you ^-^ Love is natural you can't force it ^-^ By the looks of things people will meet in the most random places, so expect the unexpected ^-^

expect the unexpected? u mean the day i get whacked on the head by a rock hard giant submarine sandwich by the pretty girl in front me in a queue at a local sandwich shop, and i fall over onto a giant plate of pickles only to be helped up by a bad elvis impersonator is the day i find true love? LOL :bg:

yicks! :s another point why i don't want to fall in love... i don't want to cry all the tears of my body out when the breaking up day comes along... well... i'm saying this mostly because one of my friends just broke up with her boyfriend and she's not going well at all... :sheep:

what can i say? .. except "it is better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all" an old cliche i know but very appropriate here.

uhm... it's not cliche papa.... but "cliché"... ^^ or the verb is "clicher" ah but oh well... who cares...

well.... i don't know... i don't feel a lose by not loving anyone... but she certainly was in a bad state... :s

well, i could say this,... think of it as some form of consolation,.... if you dont try for love how are you suppose to find the one thats right for you?
if we all give up on looking for love the world will be a real gloomy place.

i never said i wasn't looking for love.... did i say that? well i agree i've stopped looking for now... but i have a little principal... if a have the revelation of my life on a guy cool... if not, i don't care...

To the original question, yes. It was completely one sided and the other knew nothing of it. The pathetic part was that I felt that way for 12 years (discovered it at the age of 5, first day of school). After that, I took a chance, and found out she had a boyfriend... Cowardice sucks, especially when there is nothing to be afraid of.

Oh well. At least I have the rest of my life to look forward to.

i suppose if you do find someone to go for you should go for it, otherwise you'll be left with that what if question all ur life. Problem i have now is that i cant even find a single target!

hmm.... well i tryed 3 times so i wouldn't regret it but unfortunatly (or fortunatly...) i recieved 3 lovely NOs... lol! oh well... i know that eventually i'll find myself a boyfriend... sooner or later... it's bound to hapen anyway... lol! wonder who that will be